Review: The Woman Who Still Wants to Marry (2010)

The cast: Park Jin Hee, Wang Bit Na, Uhm Ji Won, Kim Bum, Choi Chul Ho, Lee Pil Mo and a bunch of other people

In the grand scheme of Korean (well, actually most Asian) dramas, few things are worse than being a single woman in her thirties. Married to a cheating husband? Saddled with the Mother-in-Law from Hell™? Well, look on the bright side—at least you’re not an unmarried career woman.

Such is Lee Shin Young’s (Park Jin Hee) lot in life in The Woman Who Still Wants to Marry, except that spinsterhood isn’t the only thing headlining her FML list. For the 34-year old news reporter, there’s also the issue of her career, which seems to be going nowhere thanks to one treacherous sunbae and patriarchal forces at work. It doesn’t seem to matter to anyone that Shin Young has drive and a brain — when she tells her boyfriend she wants to go abroad to study so she can get ahead in her career, instead of encouraging her, he dumps her because he doesn’t want to wait two years to get married. Say it with me now: What. A. Loser.

Poor girl can’t catch a break

Bringing up the rear in this drama are Jung Da Jung (Eom Ji Won) and Kim Bu Ki (Wang Bit Na). A translator by profession, the former is a woman on a do-or-die mission to find a husband — and not just any kind. Topping her checklist of requirements: He has to 1) be successful, 2) have a full head of hair, 3) be taller than her and 4) not be the eldest son. She’s basically SATC‘s Charlotte on steroids but played with grace and good humour by Eom. Da-jung can be silly and self-absorbed but she is not without charm or self-awareness.

Standing in as the show’s voice of reason is Bu Ki, a glamorous restaurant consultant who knows better than to view marriage as a prerequisite for happiness. There was a time when she spent 10 years playing a doormat to her ex-fiancé and his family. Not anymore. She’ll live her life the way she wants, thank you very much, and if people talk so be it.

One is a genius, the other’s insane…

I’ll say this now: I. Friggin’. Love. This. Show. I wasn’t expecting much when I first read the synopsis, which reminded me immediately of Anego, a drama that I found underwhelming to say the least (here’s why). And making me even more wary were the Sex and the City references. Look, I loved the TV series as much as the next person when it was airing, but can we please move on? Do we really need another series about a group of women bemoaning their lack of a love life? Suffice it to say that I didn’t think I’d stay on for the entire 16-episode ride.

I love it when I’m wrong about things like this.

I don’t know why this drama didn’t do better in Korea because it’s certainly one of the more refreshing shows out there. No one gets amnesia (or cancer), and while Shin Young, Da Jung and Bu Ki may goof around from time to time, at no point do they behave like they’re too dumb to breathe.

Friends…where would you be without them?

What carries this story is the fact that Lee Shin-young is one of the most realistic female characters that I’ve seen in an Asian drama. She isn’t one of those standard Candy types brimming with optimism and good cheer. She’s an everywoman with struggles and insecurities that many single city girls can relate to, whether they’re living in Hong Kong or Hongdae. (Okay, maybe except for the romance with the hot younger man.) There’s one scene where, after being screwed over by her supervisor, she tells Min-jae that even though she feels like resigning in protest of what he’s done, she has to be realistic as well. She’s in her thirties, jobs in her field of work aren’t in great supply and she has bills to pay. If I had watched this drama ten years ago, I would have been filled with righteous indignation just like Min-jae. But now that I’m older, I can empathise with her completely.

Given that this drama is of the rom-com persuasion, it’s great having a character like Bu Ki who is adamant about not letting any man run her life. The best thing is that she isn’t a bitter or cynical person—her experience hasn’t turned her into a man-hater nor does she belittle Shin Young or Da Jung’s attempts at finding love. When they need encouragement, she’s there to support them and when they need a reality check, she’s there to dish it out as well. God knows this woman dispenses some of the best advice to come out of a Korean drama. And while I may not be able to identify with Da Jung, I know at least one person who has made it their life’s mission to get married.

Bu-ki gets ready to open a can of whoop ass while Da Jung does what she does best

While I started watching this drama for Kim Bum, I wasn’t really expecting much from the older woman-younger man romance. Most of the times, these tend to be quite predictable; they fall in lust, fall into bed, realise that hot sex can’t make up for the age difference and then break up. But this is different – and I’m not just referring to the fact that his biceps are the only part of his body you get to see. The issues arising from their age difference are handled very sensitively and it also helps that you can make s’mores with the heat emanating from Shin Young and Min Jae’s chemistry.

Oh, just squee already

Oh, the eye smexing and cheeky banter! And the smirks! Akanishi Jin, watch and learn: This is what I’m talking about when I said there wasn’t enough frission in Anego. I really like the slow build to their relationship and how Park Jin Hee captures Shin Young’s inner conflict: What do you do when a HOT piece of man-boy candy dangles himself in front of you? Do you throw all notions of propriety to the wind, get hot and sweaty first and talk later? Or do you reign in your inner hussy and lock her under a ton of concrete in the interest of self-preservation? (I think we can all guess where I stand on this score.)

Kim Bum’s smile should come with a health warning: May cause dizziness and shortness of breath. Do not drive, operate heavy machinery or do anything that requires a sound frame of mind while under its influence.

Having said that, their relationship isn’t just made up of cute fluff; the spectre of reality is one that is constantly shadowing them—there’s the issue of parental, and to a certain extent, societal disapproval as well as the fact that they’re both at very different stages of their lives.

On this note, credit should be given to Kim for his handling of the age gap between his and Park’s characters. While he looked like he was playing grownup in Boys Before Flowers (not his fault though, the entire show was so over the top it was hard to take any of the characters seriously), there’s no need for any make believe here. There’s an edge to Min Jae that you don’t see in So Yi Jung; this character could so easily have just been another posturing pretty face but thankfully, there’s more to him than this. Sure, he’s a smartass who’s a bit too cocky for his own good but peel back the layers of this smooth operator and you’ll find a young man struggling with the desire to be a good son to his mother (who’s not had the happiest of marriages) and walk his own path. Plus, I love the fact that he’s a problem solver and that he comes up with ways to help Shin Young at work. I don’t know about you but pretty faces tend to get old really quickly if that’s all there is to them.

Min Jae tries to protect his mom from his big, bad halmoni

That he considers himself a dating expert has, I feel, less to do with his popularity with women, and more to do with the fact that he knows how to draw them in, having seen it all first-hand courtesy of his philandering father (btw, just what is it with Kim Bum and cheating dads?) Family circumstances and a troubled adolescence have caused Min Jae to grow up faster than his peers and he certainly holds his own with the other two male characters in the show. For starters, he’s a lot sharper than his former tutor, Ban Seok (Choi Chul Ho), and more with-the-times than Sang Woo, Shin Young’s ex. He may play games with her at first but he also knows when to man up and tell her in plain simple Korean that he likes her.

Min Jae goes mano-a-mano with Sang Woo

The Woman Who Still Wants to Marry is buoyed, for the most part, by a likeable supporting cast and a nice mix of comedy and drama. However, I do wish Sang Woo’s character had been developed more evenly. It isn’t until the latter half of the show that he acquires a patina of personality. Prior to this, he’s just there as a plot point and another obstacle to be thrown in his ex-girlfriend’s way. He breaks up with her when she tells him that she wants to go abroad to study and then taunts her about her singlehood status when she returns. If that’s not enough, he suddenly realizes that he’s still in love with her and breaks off his own wedding, expecting her to run back into his arms. Like, hello? When did being single make you God’s gift to women?

What sets The Woman Who Still Wants to Marry apart from other romantic comedies is that it doesn’t tie everything up in a neat happy ending. Yes, people do end up together but whether marriage is on the cards or not is anyone’s guess, and the endless possibilities this presents are infinitely more satisfying than a contrived trip down the aisle for everyone.

No prizes for guessing what Ban Seok’s idea of happiness is


  1. I loved this drama. It was a 10/10 for me until the last 2 episodes when it became a 9 . But one of the best shows I have watched. I feel so sad when such great shows do not get the ratings they deserve. Maybe it was the older woman-younger man thing or that it was not as candyfloss as the other dramas! Whatever the reason, you feel for the people who have invested so much in making such a brilliant drama.

    I was so impressed with the way they addressed the age issue and the bonding between the 3 friends was so believable. Da Jung stole my heart. She was so wonderfully weird and Bu Ki’s character is the kind you find very rare on television.

    Kudos to Park Jin Hee n Kim Bum for making their ‘odd’ pairing so normal. PJH played such a strong character. The toilet scene where she cries and then snaps herself out of it, her voiceovers, the strange mix of vulnerability and dogged persistence that is her, everything. Kim Bum also played Min Jae so well. There was this maturity about him(esp. when he was around Ban Seok but even otherwise) and yet there was this still-becoming-grown up vibe about him. I hope that the low ratings do not discourage him from trying out such challenging roles where he gets to really show his acting prowess.

    The girl bonding was the USP of this show for me. That is what made it seem so realistic n fun. The dialogues were also spot-on. Above all, melodrama stayed away. I cannot thank the PD n the scriptwriter enough for treating such a theme seriously and with many of its complexities intact without losing out on any of the fun quotient.

    2010 was a great year if it could produce this n SKKS!

    1. Oh yay! Another Woman Who Still Wants to Marry fan! I’ve read comments from people who love the show and people who don’t. I think it’s one of those shows where you have to be going through a particular set of circumstances/period in your life to actually identify with the main characters. As I said, I was extremely wary going into this. I only tuned in because of Kim Bum (yes, I am very shallow) and I was really surprised to find myself loving the girls because it’s so rare that I like a female character in an Asian drama. In fact, I loved PJH’s character so much that I don’t think I would have minded too much if she hadn’t ended up with Min Jae (though I would have been a little sad.)

      I found the main pairing very believable. Hell, I wanted it to happen to me! *ahem* I don’t really watch that many dramas because I don’t have the time and I’m pretty ruthless with shows that take more than two episodes to get going (which is why I dropped Runaway Plan B even though I actually wanted to like it.) There were only two that I really loved this year–this and SKKS–and if 2011 can give me another keeper (or two), I will be happy.

      Here’s me keeping my fingers crossed for What’s Up.

  2. LOVED LOVED LOVED this drama! I’ve seen it about 4-5 times already! It’s really Kim Bum that I love but the entire cast was awesome! I haven’t read a bad review yet….

  3. The original review is great – funny. I just found the drama and enjoyed watching it. Happy to find a korean drama that is more realistic. The issues of unmarried career-minded Asian woman resonate well with the reality of many Asian women. Overall the drama has more respect on gender equality although in some places, the Cinderella syndrome scenes remain – how could even 34 years old reporter keep being rescued by 24 years old guy who has little knowledge on journalism… seriously.

    1. Thanks for the kind words, unpdind, and yay! Another fan of the drama!

      how could even 34 years old reporter keep being rescued by 24 years old guy who has little knowledge on journalism… seriously

      Hmm…I had a very different way of looking at the situation. I just thought he was helping her because he was in a position where he actually had useful insider info about people in the music industry (I’m assuming that one of the scenes you’re referring to is the one about the actress who used to be an opera singer or something like that.) It would have been unbelievable if he had fed her a story idea and she had won Korea’s equivalent of the Pulitzer Prize because of that.

  4. I can’t sleep at night because of this drama….I can relate to the character of shin…she finds a pretty boy younger than her age but she has enough courage to fight off the feeling and wait for the right time… i want her to be my Kim’re simply the best!

  5. Joining the party 11 years later but watched this drama a few months ago and similarly began it expecting to find it so cringe and awful that I would turn it off within the first few minutes and found myself instead blown away by how beautifully sensitive and insightful the script’s vision was all while maintaining an upbeat sense of humor. I love finding the corners of the internet where this sentiment about the drama is shared by others. There are very few dramas I have seen that remain memorable over time. But this is definitely one of them. Especially being from the more outdated 2010 era of acting and aesthetics, it has impressive staying power for me! I thought the acting, the characterizations, flow of the plot and development of the themes were so intricately handled in the kaleidoscopic foils that each character served to be for one another. <3

    I love how female friendship was made just as inspiring and important as romance in the drama and how each dynamic and relationship never lost its sense of dignity even when dipping in and out of comedy.

    Anyway, I love coming across people and comments on the web that praise this drama. I think it deserves it! I think it's such a loss that it isn't more widely considered a classic and that it didn't do well when it aired. It's a drama that I found accomplished what so few do! A gorgeous continuous and coherent development of characters and message up until the very end that never rehashes or over-complicates in order to fill in the time.

    1. LOL…I never thought people would still be coming to this blog considering that I have not updated it in ages!

      I am very glad that I had reason to log into my email account (the one associated with this blog) today otherwise I probably wouldn’t have seen your comment until…2024…haha. I haven’t watched this drama in a while but I still have fond memories of it. In terms of aesthetics, it’s not as polished as the dramas of today but that doesn’t really matter when the characters and their stories pull you in and keep you watching till the end. Thank you for taking the time to write and share your thoughts about this drama. The fact that people are still reading this blog makes me think I should revive it (even though I no longer watch that many dramas these days…)

      1. Well now I’m really testing fate by going for a reply! Maybe you’ll see this in 2030 when you next check it ;)

        First, the second I sent my first comment I regretted it because I was so excited to join in the gushing of this drama that I failed to acknowledge how wonderful your review was in encouraging the gush! But I absolutely loved your review!! And your blog as a whole was a total delight to randomly come across and peruse!

        After I watched The Woman Who Still Wants to Marry (which, it is the worst long title ever, but I still insist on using it as opposed to Still Marry Me! haha, I think it better gets across the spirit of the film!) I was lucky enough to find someone on the kdrama reddit who was willing to help me process this drama even though they, like you, had seen it years ago haha. :) And I went so overboard with trying to think about everything in this drama and getting more and more excited about how there were so few deadends to thinking about the drama because it was simply *that well written and envisioned* that our back and forth ended up filling up 50 pages of single spaces. (which is ridiculous I fully admit haha but it was SO FUN and I was also a bit weirded out in a touched way to find often I pulled out thoughts from that conversation and from the drama in “serious” “adult” conversations I’ve had with friends! Haha. I laugh considering that it’s become a sort of bible to me in some ways. And that is WEIRD. I admit. But… gosh so precious and still disturbing in a “wow, capitalism and consumerist cycles of addiction can sometimes really touch your heart and say something nice!). All to say, it was so wonderful to find your review because you so concisely yet still insightfully hit on *everything* that took me 50 pages to recognize and celebrate about the drama.

        This review is just really wonderful!

        Also, I have to say. I find it funny how self selection works with relation to dramas and their viewers.The people I have come across in the kdrama world who like this drama just seem to me to occupy a very special mental space — very insightful, very funny, very knowledgeable, very wise, and very humorous and enjoyable interlocutors! My type of people each and every time :) I’ve cherished in a unique way the interactions I have with people concerning this drama and the thoughts and the themes we’ve explored while discussing this drama in a way that doesn’t translate to other dramas. :) So thanks for being another mind that sparked when watching this drama and then sharing that spark publicly. ;)

        Your writing is so full of life and personality and I would be one of many who would love to read what you write further. But also… I want to give you a round of applause for getting out of the drama world and not watching that many anymore. :) As much as I love dramas and enjoy analyzing them, I know there really are better things I could be spending my brain energy and time on…. ;)

        But I am sure that many people still stumble upon this blog when searching up dramas they watched that you reviewed here. And found a lot of joy and comfort being able to think about the drama all anew through your wonderful voice. :)

        Thanks again :) :)

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